The Best Time To Give Unsolicited Critique Is...
When you have built trust and rapport with that particular human being…that is the best time to give unsolicited critique.
It really is that simple.
But for some people, it’s the hardest concept to grasp.
They see a drumming video and feel compelled to “help” by giving their 2 cents about their playing, their technique or the first left diddle that came in early.
They’ll say this to a complete fkking stranger!!!
And no…don’t give me some BS about how they are like the Mother Teresa of drumming and want to help every poor soul with sucky drumming with their amazing critique and commentary.
Want to know the REAL truth?
These people do it because they want to stroke their own ego; imposing their philosophies, techniques and approaches to complete strangers because it validates everything they identify with as a drummer.
But no…they don’t want people like me, or SDJMalik or Tommy Igoe to say that kind of thing.
…they don’t want to hear it!
After all…who couldn’t use critique? Who wouldn’t want help? I mean, if you say that sort of thing, then you obviously can’t take criticism.
If you think like that…then you’ve completely missed the point about what it means to be socially intelligent.
But if you are a “victim” of unsolicited critique…take it anyway…we can all get something out of someone else’s criticism, no matter their intent.
However, if you want to be successful in life, learn social intelligence by creating relationships with other human beings, building their trust and then give them constructive criticism.
Even then…it’s even better if they ask for it :)
What do you think? Am I wrong? Wanna fight me in the comments? lol
For more perspective, make sure you watch the video below: